This past Sunday’s New York Times offered up an irresistible
notion that echoes something much on my mind lately. What, now that I am
retired, having left the country of my birth, growth and working life, having
left my grown child and family and friends for solitude and ease, what, really, is my life all about?
My dad, when diagnosed with prostate cancer at age 70, opted
for no treatment, as the disease would likely progress very slowly, and, after
all, “I’ve had a good life,” he declared. At 70. My age, in three years. Why,
on the eve of my 67th birthday, do I feel I’ve barely lived? Why do I wonder
how it is that I now live book to book, bedtime to bedtime, meal to meal? Why do
I feel so incredibly unproductive, so disinterested in anything resembling a
social life, so slothful, so... worthless?
I’ll tell you why. Two of my closest friends, my
contemporaries, also “retired,” are finding themselves in perhaps the most intensely productive
periods of their lives. Instead of fleeing gratefully to the comforting warmth
of a “life of the mind,” as I have, they have separately charged wholeheartedly
into maelstroms of activity, deadlines, obstacles, and accomplishment.
Tey in the middle, with me and our late great pal Sally Kalson, 30 years ago,
when we were the Fabulous Raisinettes.
Tey Stiteler divides her time (and citizenship) between the U.S. and
Mexico, where she lives in the Yucatan in Valladolid. She’s an accomplished journalist who
spent much of her late career directing public relations for Pittsburgh’s most
prestigious art museum. She fell in love with Mexico’s lovely embroidered
garments, and took up needlework of her own in her adopted country. When she
visited me in Nicaragua, she was much taken with the multi-pocketed, ruffle-bedecked
aprons worn by all the women in the Mercado, and we spent quite some time
looking to buy them. Lately, she has decided to marry her love of Mexican
clothing and her museum experience by opening a museum dedicated to the ethnic
clothing of Mexico. Not only has she traveled the country seeking out various
traditional dress, but she located and leased a perfect space for the museum,
supervised its rehabilitation, and outfitted a small house as a tourist rental
to provide funding to maintain the facility!
She bought mannequins and pedestals, and is currently cataloging her
collection, with plans to open the Museo de Ropa Etnica de Mexico (MUREM) later
this month.
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Tom Matrullo, my dear friend from my freshman year of college, lately
rediscovered in the new millennium, has enjoyed a lifetime of the mind,
dedicating his considerable intellect to classical literature and philosophy, along
with more contemporary turns of thought. He is several months my senior, and really ought to be investigating assisted living before too long, right?
When I visited Tom some years ago, he took me on a tour of
some of Florida’s Gulf Coast’s natural botanical and zoological treasures. One
space, known as the Celery Fields, in Sarasota, is a wetlands paradise of
grassy expanses, marshes, water, and tranquility. Indigenous and migratory birds are
found here is good numbers, and it is a mecca for birders and peace-seekers
alike.
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Bird Photos: Chuck R. Behrmann |
As Sarasota contemplates its future development, it, like many warm-climate
towns, must surely look upon undeveloped acreage like the Celery Fields as ripe
for transformation into needed housing and commercial properties. Incredibly,
the brain trust in Sarasota’s municipal government actually looked at a piece
of land abutting the Celery Fields and decided it would be an ideal location
for a garbage treatment plant.
My friend Tom needed only a few of his brain cells to see
the probable consequences of this woeful notion. It took exactly no time for
Tom to apply his technological expertise, persuasive linguistics, and righteous
disgust to creating a unified community effort to halt the treatment plant
project, and further agitate to secure a safe future for the Celery Fields,
both as a bird sanctuary and a valued community asset. This worthy work has
taken many months of meetings, demonstrations, legal wrangling, public
education, media relations, and hugely frustrating delays and deaf ears. But
it’s working. The treatment plant is dead, and the community is mobilized
toward having its say in any future use of undeveloped lands, including the
Celery Fields.
Moreover, it seems to me that Tom has hit his stride, later
in life than most, perhaps, but what a lovely stride it is. Who knew he was a
natural leader, he who always had his nose in a book and cultivated a primarily
observational
relationship with, well, people. Good on you, Tom. What a terrific legacy for your children’s children.
The NYT editorial that prompted this post has helped me to weasel my
way out of abject shame for the decidedly non-involved nature of my present
life. Perhaps I am experiencing what Ms. Hampl describes as “a late-arriving
awareness of consciousness existing for its own sake.” Yeah, consciousness
existing for its own sake. That’s what it must be.